IT ALL BEGAN FROM HOME – Purposeful Relationship

IT ALL BEGAN FROM HOME – Purposeful Relationship

IT ALL BEGAN FROM HOME – Purposeful Relationship

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We all come from a home. We all have parents.
We all have seen how marriage looks like. We could have seen the ugly side or the beautiful side of marriage depending on the home, you came from.

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Maybe, as a boy you grew up in a home where the father is the alpha and omega. The father’s responsibility is to whoop asses not just the children’s but, also the mother’s. The father may contribute little or none in financing the family, but yet is in charge of the finance of the family.

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You grew up under such a family and maybe you didn’t get oriented that your father was wrong, so now you have started or continued with the legacy of your father on your girlfriend [not wife yet] and you are feeling is the right thing and credits your actions yourself.

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Maybe your girlfriend is the type we call “foolishly” in love with you and thinks as well that it’s alright since she too came from a home where the father, a boxer and the mother is the punching bag.

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Well, boy and girl… It is wrong. Love never demands abuse or assaults or maltreatment as the right way to prove your manly points. Your role is to protect her actually from such an abuse from outsiders.

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On the hand, you grew up as a boy in a beautiful loving home. Dad is the superhero of the family. So sweet, caring and sensitive to the needs of everyone at home. You saw him hug your mum, kiss her and still verbalize his love for her. He showers her with gifts and all sorts of amazing things as am expression of love.

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Congratulations, you have a better understanding of what love is about, but your problem happens to be in the woman you intend marrying. She may come, in contrast from your home, a home where the mother was abused and she has gotten so much inner convictions that “men are beasts” and won’t take such crap from a man.
Refusing to be a gullible as her mum.

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You may be dating her right now, you just can’t understand why she flares up easily at your slightest annoyance. She seems unappeasable and wants everything to go her way. She could have almost tried to hurt you the last time you had an issue with her.

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It’s pretty not her fault… It’s from the home.

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I don’t know about you. I don’t know where you grew up in and the parents that raised you. I don’t know what your mother’s advise out of frustration could have been or your dad’s instructions to you about how to treat a woman.

The truth although is that we rarely get such kind of advises from our African parents, we are motivated by what we see happening in the family and we grow up with that knowledge.

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Here’s the truth, brother… God’s blessing on a man is his wife. She deserves your immeasurable love, care and attention. She deserves to be heard, understood and respected. She deserves to be tolerated, cherished and adored. She deserves an Assurance [maybe not a Porsche, but whatever you can afford most of all, the best of You]

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Here’s the truth, Sister… God crowned you with a husband. Submit to him not as a house maid but as his vice. Love, cherish, praise and appreciate him for everything. Encourage his dreams, pray for his visions and always be there for him. Motivate him in the deep of the night when he is awake thinking of the way forward, suggest ideas to him but don’t enforce it on him. You can make life simple and smooth for him, when he gives you The Assurance, surely he deserves Your Accolades.

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You may already know those, count it as a reminder.

“Make all the foolish decisions about life but not in the choice of a life partner. If you are really going to live long and by purpose here on earth, your spouse alone can Endorse or not Endorse that. For better, for worse… Till death do us part.”

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